Join Me in Prayer

I invite you to join me in praying for all who have been or will be effected by hurricane Irma. 

Blessings & Peace,
Barbara J Couch, MDiv.


No Revenge..Really?

There are topics that some choose to ignore or to only talk about surfacely. I’m not that kind of a person. I learned early on in seminary not to avoid the hard truths in Scripture. Today’s topic is about not seeking revenge on people who have harmed you.

It’s very difficult not to mentally want to get someone back for hurting you never mind actually doing something about the harm done to you. Scripture reminds us in Hebrews 10:30 (AMP), “For we know Him who said, “Vengeance is Mine [retribution and the deliverance of justice rest with Me], I will repay [the wrongdoer].” And again, “The Lord will judge His people.”  Thus, as Christians we can free ourselves from the clutter and the negative distractions that get kindled by seeking revenge. I’m not stating that if someone harmed you that you should not seek legal action. What I’m saying is to not let seeking revenge take up space in your head that could cause you more unnecessary pain and to believe what the Scriptures are saying.

1 Peter 3:9 (AMP)
“and never return evil for evil or insult for insult [avoid scolding, berating, and any kind of abuse], but on the contrary, give a blessing [pray for one another’s well-being, contentment, and protection]; for you have been called for this very purpose, that you might inherit a blessing [from God that brings well-being, happiness, and protection].”

This Scripture reminds us as believers in Christ not to “… return evil for evil or insult for insult [avoid scolding, berating, and any kind of abuse],”. I have found in the past when I move away from thinking about getting someone back because they had hurt me, I can rest easy. Be more at peace and experience my connection with God uninterrupted. Whenever I have participated in sin, I have always felt or experience the distance I put between myself and God. It’s not God’s doing it is me that has moved away from Him.

Let’s go a bit deeper here. It feels like even more of a betrayal when the person that has harmed you has been another Christian. Despite this, the same Scriptures apply. Pray for them. Trust that they will answer to the Lord as we all will do and that right now God’s plan for us is to live free, love intentionally and be blessings to others. With this kind of mindset and perspective, a person can move on (when I say move on,  I’m not telling you to not feel your feelings but I am saying not to let your feelings lead you) and not allow what other people do, Christians or not, effect them.

I choose to want God’s will to effect me. I choose to let the Holy Spirit lead me. I choose not to behave in ways that would put me in danger or bring on unwanted issues with the law.

I invite you to explore where you are with this topic. As the body of Christ, we all need to be reminded of what God’s will is in every aspect of our lives. In these reminders, God’s love and grace shines through.

Blessing & Peace,

Barbara J Couch, MDiv.




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The Truth About Speaking the Truth

“But speaking the truth in love [in all things—both our speech and our lives expressing His truth], let us grow up in all things into Him [following His example] who is the Head—Christ.”

            Ephesians 4:15 (AMP)

Speaking the truth to someone about something is not easy at times. However when one speaks the truth there are benefits to be had. One, you engage that part of you that wants to do the right thing. Two, you are more likely to not hold on to resentments because you have confronted the issues or concerns even though you may have felt uncomfortable. Three, it’s a built in spiritual principle that leads and satisfies our longing to be more Christ like in our nature or closer to Him.

All that said, it’s important that one have the right motivation and attitude when speaking the truth. Let me add here that speaking the truth may or may not coincide with your personal truth.

Ephesians 4:15 reminds us to speak the truth in love. That love is the agape kind of love not the kind of love that pushes a self interested or dysfunctional agenda. In the epistle to the Ephesians the writer is warning them about the kind of truth telling some do who are not Christians. There is of course a big difference.

I invite you to speak the truth with agape love. Let that truth spoken with love release you from the bondage of self, resentment, fear, discouragement and negativity

Blessings and Peace,

Barbara J Couch, MDiv.